How many times have you tried to break a bad habit? Several? Every January 1st? Every darn day? I'm with you. I’ve tried many different ways to break my bad habits. But none of the conventional tips and tricks brought me lasting success. We try the weirdest things to get rid of our bad habits. And we blindly believe every single person who gives us advice on the topic. Questions to ask yourself: When did I start this habit? Was there a significant life event that may have contributed to starting? What emotion(s) am I feeling when I engage in this behavior? What do I feel before, during, and after the behavior? When do I engage in the behavior? Are there any common triggers for this behavior? Are there times when I engage in this behavior more? At what times do I engage in this behavior less? Bad habits jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. So, how can you delete your bad behaviors and stick to good ones instead? I certainly don't have all of the answers, but keep reading and I'll share what I've learned about how to break a bad habit.
I admit it: I’ve been working on realigning my money mindset for several months now. Because let’s face it: money is one of the most important elements of modern life! You can say you don’t care about money all you want but there’s no denying that money is the gateway to do many of the things we want to do. If you’re anything like me, money is a difficult subject for you too. I didn’t learn a whole lot about money directly while I was growing up. But from watching my family I just knew it was something that was difficult to obtain and hold onto. I don’t remember anyone talking about ease and flow around money as a child! But I do remember lots of people complaining about not having it, talking about what we’d do with it or even slightly resenting other people for having it. You might not think that stuff from your childhood has anything to do with who you are now! But that’s just plain wrong. Even though our conscious mind is good at separating fact from fiction, our subconscious mind is still clinging onto all those old beliefs as if they were gospel.
When you learn to embrace your fears and accept them with open arms, that's when the magic begins! Life can cajole our strength in the face of challenges; knocking every single shield of hope, courage, and optimism, lifting a blindfold in our direction and truth is the biggest advocacy we need in those thirsty times; truth in the light of encouragement to boost our vibe and as a firm reminder. There are times we just need to hear some encouraging words like, “that it will be okay”, “we are not alone”, “we are in control even when we are sinking in turmoil”. Those assuring words ushers in beats of motivation to guide and direct us through the challenging and hard times.
I met a friend at the airport last month and we got to talking. We had met after some years and while catching up, he mentioned, “You know Aishwarya, I have started focusing more and more on myself as I grow older. Earlier I used to think that it is a selfish thing to do, but now I know that it is only by focusing on my own self that I can focus on the important things of life – my family, my work, and all the things I hold dear!”
In a nutshell, self-esteem is your opinion of yourself and your abilities. It can be high, low or somewhere in-between. While everyone occasionally has doubts about themselves, low self-esteem can leave you feeling insecure and unmotivated. You might be able to identify a few things that are affecting your opinion of yourself (maybe you’re being bullied, or you might be feeling lonely), or it could be a mystery. Either way, there are heaps of things you can do to improve your self-esteem. I'll keep that for other topic, for now, read along these quotes to find inspiration for your self-esteem.