Living through our own experience – absorbing the world and people around us as we participate in activities is the best way to learn and assimilate learnings. What cements this is reflection. The more we reflect on what experience teaches us, the better we learn. When we fail to do that, we do not absorb new learnings, and hence repeat mistakes. On the other hand, those who deliberate on experiences, are the ones who add confidence and intent to every step of their lives, continuously upgrading their existence.
But what exactly is imposter syndrome? I created this blog post especially to answer that question and break the chains of self-doubt. It takes years as a person to unlearn a quality that we were taught to be felt sorry for. In the process of apologizing for every little mistake, we start doubting our own thoughts and beliefs and start judging all aspects of our universe. Stick with me till the end and hopefully you'll learn a thing or two. There’s been a lot of press about the Imposter Syndrome in the past few years, but what it comes down to is a feeling of intellectual fraudulence. You may have degrees, awards, good performance reviews, promotions, maybe even accolades in a public forum like Angel – but you push it all away. You minimize positive feedback. The story you tell yourself is that you’re a one-hit-wonder, that your success is a fluke that couldn’t happen again. You have no idea how you landed your job or why someone gave you this authority. What you do know is that it’ll certainly all disappear if you screw up even once.
The other day, I was thinking about the type of impact I want to leave on people's minds - knowingly and unknowingly. I imagined a random person having a conversation and saying ‘I remember her as…………..’, or ‘She says that……..’. But what did I want those blanks to say? It’s something I’ve never pondered before. So, I sat down and started to write and what emerged was this list of 30 power statements. I liked it so much that I wanted to share it with you, in the hopes that it inspires you to stop, go inward, search your soul, and create your own. You can use mine as inspiration, and once you have your own list, please share it with me in the comments below. I would love to read it!
For years, I’ve been grappling with the question of how professionals in an increasingly noisy and frenetic world can ensure their expertise is recognized. In the course of researching for my book (yes, I'm writing a book), I have looked up to more than 50 top thought leaders across a variety of different fields to elicit best practices and commonalities. I found plenty of useful techniques, from cultivating a trusted wingman to help promote you to others, to identify commonalities with the people you’re seeking to influence so they’ll be more receptive to your message. As I came to realize, though, there are three foundational elements to getting your ideas understood and appreciated, elements that underlie everything else. These are social proof, which gives people a reason to listen to you; content creation, which allows them to evaluate the quality of your ideas; and your network, which allows your ideas to spread. Without at least two of these, though ideally, you have all three, it’s structurally almost impossible for your message to breakthrough. Understanding that dynamic can help talented professionals, who may be prone to focusing their energy on the techniques that come most easily to them, know where to apply their efforts in order to ensure their true value is recognized.
For the past four days, I've started sharing writing prompts over my Instagram handle, Aishwarya Shah, on the topic of - strength during uncertain times. At least that's what I think I'll stick to for the next couple of days. Anyway, I don't know how many days these writing prompts might last, but its always good to write. Writing acts as an instant mood-lifting tool. Writing is therapeutic. And for that reason, for those of you who still don't follow my Instagram, I'm sharing these two poems here so that it may help you in taking control and being in charge of your life. In some way or the other. Mental Health is important inside and outside of work. Professionally as well as personally. Here are all the four writing prompts+poems that might help in taking control of your life. And do read till the end. There’s an announcement.