Networking: the necessary career evil. It conjures up visions of a crowded room of professionals adorned with name tags and holding glasses of wine. In huddles people exchange business cards and share what they do. This is the default idea of networking, but it is so much more than this. By finding and establishing meaningful, lasting, and mutually beneficial connections, it starts and advances careers. It is all about the follow-up and follow-through: the email, the coffee date, the face-to-face time. We set roadblocks for ourselves when we think about networking as a one-off situation that does not go beneath the surface. In reality, networking is like any good relationship — it requires nurturing and grows over time. Think of it as meeting a new friend or date. What if we re-frame what networking means and separate it from the vision of a forced, formal scenario? Consider the following five ways to think about the true meaning of networking.
The good news is anyone can fall in love with the process. Every expert was once an amateur and every master was first a beginner. What separates them from the crowd is their relentless consistency in showing up and doing the work. Drop your need for immediate results, focus on your daily habits and keep adjusting as you go. The results are always within reach, just slightly beyond where most people are willing to go.
So here is a fact - Last night I watched four movies, one after another till 5 am. I woke up at 11 am today morning, feeling luxuriously decadent and woolly-headed. But, strangely happy and satisfied. I have some extremely important deadlines coming up and have never been so stressed before. I was just draining myself with work. So instead, I "broke the rule", set aside the work and gave myself a little break from the mundane. And, it has made me come up with a really good idea for this particular post that I'm writing.
How many times have we been told to push harder? “Never quit”. “No pain, no gain”. But do you know how to actually become a person who never quits? People become complacent when things go wrong. “I earn less because I didn’t go to college”. “I don’t have friends because I’m shy”. It’s easy to have excuses. Few hold the belief that we can become whoever we want to be in life. We just need to take charge. We just need to lay one brick at a time and soon enough we’ll have a strong wall of success. People usually believe that being tough means pushing harder. But sometimes, we need to zoom out and focus on the bigger picture. We need to ask ourselves a very basic question – “What is my purpose?”
We all have compared ourselves to some other person/people at least once in our lives. We all are guilty of forgetting our beautiful soul for that particular moment when realization strikes and you're back to your own reality. Well...STOP. Just stop comparing yourself to some one else because you are a miracle and you're unique in your own way. Job title, income, grades, house, and the social media comments and likes—the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite. So is the number of people we can compare ourselves to. A comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness. It’s a recipe for misery. All it does is keeping you focused on what you don’t like about yourself and your life. Here are ten powerful reminders when you start comparing yourself to others: