First, let me explain the question - how can science and math prove kindness exists? Answer: the equations of kindness mean the price equation given by George Price. The price equation is about how any trait changes with successive generations in a population that is under selection pressure. It factors in both the reproductive effect and the transmission effect which together shapes the genetic composition of the successive generation. These equations have applications in many aspects of population genetics and even beyond the scope of biology as well. Now, where does “kindness” come into picture? These equations were part of the proof which tried to explain the emergence of altruism, kindness, and cooperation in human and animal societies. Kindness is not something that demands hard work. It originates from the simple act of doing no harm to others. It’s no surprise wicked acts have a greater impression on us than acts of kindness. We are alerted to fear more than goodness. In these times of disingenuous social media interactions and problems around the globe, unkindness abounds as people hide behind screens. This does not make it appropriate to abuse others. There is a person on the other side of the screen with feelings we must take into account.
For years, I’ve been grappling with the question of how professionals in an increasingly noisy and frenetic world can ensure their expertise is recognized. In the course of researching for my book (yes, I'm writing a book), I have looked up to more than 50 top thought leaders across a variety of different fields to elicit best practices and commonalities. I found plenty of useful techniques, from cultivating a trusted wingman to help promote you to others, to identify commonalities with the people you’re seeking to influence so they’ll be more receptive to your message. As I came to realize, though, there are three foundational elements to getting your ideas understood and appreciated, elements that underlie everything else. These are social proof, which gives people a reason to listen to you; content creation, which allows them to evaluate the quality of your ideas; and your network, which allows your ideas to spread. Without at least two of these, though ideally, you have all three, it’s structurally almost impossible for your message to breakthrough. Understanding that dynamic can help talented professionals, who may be prone to focusing their energy on the techniques that come most easily to them, know where to apply their efforts in order to ensure their true value is recognized.
It's taken me 4 days to write this blog post. Mainly because I've been getting requests from people to "teach them how to write." Let me clear one thing - you already know how to write. You just don't believe it yet. Initially, I was going to draft some advice on copy-writing, but I thought I'll make a series of blog posts wherein I teach you how to take your writing out in public and help you to draft a great copy. Time and again people approach me with the same sentence - "I can't write." It's the resignation declaration of the self-defeated. It's wrong on so many levels. You won't write? You don't want to write? I'm willing to buy these statements. But "can't?" Sorry friend, you can. You've been writing your whole life. You write now. You write emails, greeting cards, shopping lists, meeting notes, etc. In your school years, you wrote every day. When you graduated you wrote a resume. But now, a blank screen transforms you into an anxious, insecure mess. You’ve said it a zillion times, but you’re not going to say it again because it’s a giant, steamy, stinky pile of crap.
With the rise of online courses available, it's difficult and often times tempting to spend $$$ on your next purchase. Buying online has become so easy especially when it's just a click away. The idea for this blog-post came to me when I realized that due to quarantine, people around the world are stuck at home. And the notifications are just pouring in from online course generators in the name of 'personal growth.' Now, I'm not saying all of them are wrong, but it's better to not be bombarded with such messages; I've unsubscribed from many email lists for the same reason. With the number of online courses available, it’s hard to know which ones are worth buying. Perhaps the best financial move I've ever made in my life is to get that sense of impulse under control. That's not to say that occasional spontaneity is bad - it's not and it can be quite fun - but that routine impulsiveness with one's money leads directly to financial ruin. So, how did I get this sense of impulsiveness when it comes to money under control? For me, the most useful strategy was to mentally adopt a routine where I strongly question every single purchase that I make. If I'm considering spending money on something that isn't very clearly a need (like very basic food staples) or an already-considered routine buy (like the type of hand soap that I buy whenever we need a refill), I question it. Now the above method isn't unhealthy, but it won't apply to everyone. There needs to be a strategic way which can help you whilst making decisions. That's why, I'm here 😉 <3
Have you ever had a mentor? Did you consider tallying the current relationship you have with your mentor? Do the qualities that you look for in an ideal/best mentor, match your current one? If not, how do you know what are some qualities that make the best mentor? This writing is solely based on personal experience. The other day my friend and I were having a conversation regarding mentorship and how I practically 'broke-off' with my former mentor. My friend pointed out that being the Monica (F.R.I.E.N.D.S fans will understand) that I am, I found it a little difficult to connect with the vibe of the respective person and he even said that knowing when to quit not just a situation, but a person is also important. He said, Aishwarya, there are certain specific qualities that make a good mentor and even the best mentoring relationships can run their course or become ineffective. That conversation just opened my eyes and sparked the idea of this blog post. I was a little scared of writing on personal experience, but it gave me the much-needed push to bring this out into the world. That verbal communication will now be the backbone of this incredible piece of advice!