I admit it: I’ve been working on realigning my money mindset for several months now. Because let’s face it: money is one of the most important elements of modern life! You can say you don’t care about money all you want but there’s no denying that money is the gateway to do many of the things we want to do. If you’re anything like me, money is a difficult subject for you too. I didn’t learn a whole lot about money directly while I was growing up. But from watching my family I just knew it was something that was difficult to obtain and hold onto. I don’t remember anyone talking about ease and flow around money as a child! But I do remember lots of people complaining about not having it, talking about what we’d do with it or even slightly resenting other people for having it. You might not think that stuff from your childhood has anything to do with who you are now! But that’s just plain wrong. Even though our conscious mind is good at separating fact from fiction, our subconscious mind is still clinging onto all those old beliefs as if they were gospel.
I'm guilty. Guilty of constantly and consistently apologising for things I have no need to apologise for. There is a right time and a place for a meaningful apology but the truth is so many of us find ourselves saying sorry far too much and far too often. It's seemingly engrained into us - especially women. So often I find my most used word of the day is sorry. 'Sorry' to the person that bumped into me, 'sorry' to the person that had to wait a very reasonable time for an email response/or even a meet and greet and 'sorry' to the person who has decided they don't like what I stand for. Hindsight tells me that I really shouldn't apologise for half of the things I apologise for but most importantly I shouldn't apologise for being me. Here are the 3 things we really shouldn't be apologising for and why I've decided to make a conscious effort to limit saying I'm sorry - join me?
My happiness and fulfilment when it comes to blogging relies mostly on two things: how proud I am of the work I’m creating and sharing, and my perspective. When I start to lose perspective and shift into a mindset that isn’t healthy or productive, I can really struggle to maintain my focus along the way.
I met a friend at the airport last month and we got to talking. We had met after some years and while catching up, he mentioned, “You know Aishwarya, I have started focusing more and more on myself as I grow older. Earlier I used to think that it is a selfish thing to do, but now I know that it is only by focusing on my own self that I can focus on the important things of life – my family, my work, and all the things I hold dear!”
Here's an advise -- BE YOURSELF! Too often, we give too much credit to other people’s opinions. As social animals, we humans have a natural tendency to give other people’s opinions far too much weight. We can become overly concerned by what others believe, think, or say about us and our life choices. It’s so easy to forget that most people place themselves at the center of their mental universes. And are much more likely to be paying attention to their own lives than whatever you are doing! This is a liberating thought because it frees us up from caring so much about what others think. We can start to put our focus back on living an authentic life that reflects our true self. Once you truly appreciate the value of being yourself, you will find that life becomes much simpler and less stressful. You will no longer be trying to please everyone around you and burning up precious energy on those whose opinions really do not count for much anyway.