I admit it: I’ve been working on realigning my money mindset for several months now. Because let’s face it: money is one of the most important elements of modern life! You can say you don’t care about money all you want but there’s no denying that money is the gateway to do many of the things we want to do. If you’re anything like me, money is a difficult subject for you too. I didn’t learn a whole lot about money directly while I was growing up. But from watching my family I just knew it was something that was difficult to obtain and hold onto. I don’t remember anyone talking about ease and flow around money as a child! But I do remember lots of people complaining about not having it, talking about what we’d do with it or even slightly resenting other people for having it. You might not think that stuff from your childhood has anything to do with who you are now! But that’s just plain wrong. Even though our conscious mind is good at separating fact from fiction, our subconscious mind is still clinging onto all those old beliefs as if they were gospel.
I'm guilty. Guilty of constantly and consistently apologising for things I have no need to apologise for. There is a right time and a place for a meaningful apology but the truth is so many of us find ourselves saying sorry far too much and far too often. It's seemingly engrained into us - especially women. So often I find my most used word of the day is sorry. 'Sorry' to the person that bumped into me, 'sorry' to the person that had to wait a very reasonable time for an email response/or even a meet and greet and 'sorry' to the person who has decided they don't like what I stand for. Hindsight tells me that I really shouldn't apologise for half of the things I apologise for but most importantly I shouldn't apologise for being me. Here are the 3 things we really shouldn't be apologising for and why I've decided to make a conscious effort to limit saying I'm sorry - join me?
“DO. THE. WORK. EVERY DAY, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING YOU DON’T WANT TO DO. EVERY DAY. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE, PUSH PAST THE APATHY AND LAZINESS AND FEAR. OTHERWISE, THE NEXT DAY YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TWO THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO, THEN THREE AND FOUR AND FIVE, AND PRETTY SOON, YOU CAN’T EVEN GET BACK TO THE FIRST THING. AND THEN ALL YOU CAN DO IS BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR THE MESS YOU’VE CREATED, AND NOW YOU’VE GOT A MENTAL BARRIER TO GO ALONG WITH THE PHYSICAL BARRIERS.”
When you learn to embrace your fears and accept them with open arms, that's when the magic begins! Life can cajole our strength in the face of challenges; knocking every single shield of hope, courage, and optimism, lifting a blindfold in our direction and truth is the biggest advocacy we need in those thirsty times; truth in the light of encouragement to boost our vibe and as a firm reminder. There are times we just need to hear some encouraging words like, “that it will be okay”, “we are not alone”, “we are in control even when we are sinking in turmoil”. Those assuring words ushers in beats of motivation to guide and direct us through the challenging and hard times.
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud. Be you!” ~Shannon L. Alder Ironically, the moment you stop comparing, you win. Because as long as you think winning in life is about being better or having more than others, your comparisons hold your happiness hostage. Comparing yourself to others is a race you can never win. Which begs the question: How can you get off the treadmill of “negative comparisons” and redirect your attention from beating up on yourself to bettering your future? Here are a few suggestions.