Plenty of research suggests optimistic people have a reduced risk of heart disease, stroke, and declines in lung capacity and function. Optimism is also associated with a lower risk of early death from cancer and infection. And now a new study links optimism to living a longer life.
I'm guilty. Guilty of constantly and consistently apologising for things I have no need to apologise for. There is a right time and a place for a meaningful apology but the truth is so many of us find ourselves saying sorry far too much and far too often. It's seemingly engrained into us - especially women. So often I find my most used word of the day is sorry. 'Sorry' to the person that bumped into me, 'sorry' to the person that had to wait a very reasonable time for an email response/or even a meet and greet and 'sorry' to the person who has decided they don't like what I stand for. Hindsight tells me that I really shouldn't apologise for half of the things I apologise for but most importantly I shouldn't apologise for being me. Here are the 3 things we really shouldn't be apologising for and why I've decided to make a conscious effort to limit saying I'm sorry - join me?
“DO. THE. WORK. EVERY DAY, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING YOU DON’T WANT TO DO. EVERY DAY. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE, PUSH PAST THE APATHY AND LAZINESS AND FEAR. OTHERWISE, THE NEXT DAY YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TWO THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO, THEN THREE AND FOUR AND FIVE, AND PRETTY SOON, YOU CAN’T EVEN GET BACK TO THE FIRST THING. AND THEN ALL YOU CAN DO IS BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR THE MESS YOU’VE CREATED, AND NOW YOU’VE GOT A MENTAL BARRIER TO GO ALONG WITH THE PHYSICAL BARRIERS.”
I used to be afraid of going to the movie theaters alone. Not that I was nervous for my physical safety, but I feared that sitting in the theater as a party of one, I would get awkward side-glances (you know the ones) from fellow moviegoers or somehow enjoy the experience less. So I avoided it. At all costs. Until, for the umpteenth time, I had missed a movie I’d really wanted to see because I couldn’t find someone to go with me. I was tired of missing out on opportunities.
The actions you take during your first few months when starting something new have a major impact on your success or failure. Build positive momentum early on and it will propel you through your tenure. Make some early missteps and you could face an uphill battle for the rest of your time. The biggest challenge we face during these periods is staying focused on the right things. You are drinking from the proverbial fire hose while trying to get settled and figure out how to start to have an impact. It’s easy to take on too much or to waste your precious time. So, it helps to have a set of questions to guide you.