But what exactly is imposter syndrome? I created this blog post especially to answer that question and break the chains of self-doubt. It takes years as a person to unlearn a quality that we were taught to be felt sorry for. In the process of apologizing for every little mistake, we start doubting our own thoughts and beliefs and start judging all aspects of our universe. Stick with me till the end and hopefully you'll learn a thing or two. There’s been a lot of press about the Imposter Syndrome in the past few years, but what it comes down to is a feeling of intellectual fraudulence. You may have degrees, awards, good performance reviews, promotions, maybe even accolades in a public forum like Angel – but you push it all away. You minimize positive feedback. The story you tell yourself is that you’re a one-hit-wonder, that your success is a fluke that couldn’t happen again. You have no idea how you landed your job or why someone gave you this authority. What you do know is that it’ll certainly all disappear if you screw up even once.
The other day, I was thinking about the type of impact I want to leave on people's minds - knowingly and unknowingly. I imagined a random person having a conversation and saying ‘I remember her as…………..’, or ‘She says that……..’. But what did I want those blanks to say? It’s something I’ve never pondered before. So, I sat down and started to write and what emerged was this list of 30 power statements. I liked it so much that I wanted to share it with you, in the hopes that it inspires you to stop, go inward, search your soul, and create your own. You can use mine as inspiration, and once you have your own list, please share it with me in the comments below. I would love to read it!
How many times have you tried to break a bad habit? Several? Every January 1st? Every darn day? I'm with you. I’ve tried many different ways to break my bad habits. But none of the conventional tips and tricks brought me lasting success. We try the weirdest things to get rid of our bad habits. And we blindly believe every single person who gives us advice on the topic. Questions to ask yourself: When did I start this habit? Was there a significant life event that may have contributed to starting? What emotion(s) am I feeling when I engage in this behavior? What do I feel before, during, and after the behavior? When do I engage in the behavior? Are there any common triggers for this behavior? Are there times when I engage in this behavior more? At what times do I engage in this behavior less? Bad habits jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. So, how can you delete your bad behaviors and stick to good ones instead? I certainly don't have all of the answers, but keep reading and I'll share what I've learned about how to break a bad habit.
First, let me explain the question - how can science and math prove kindness exists? Answer: the equations of kindness mean the price equation given by George Price. The price equation is about how any trait changes with successive generations in a population that is under selection pressure. It factors in both the reproductive effect and the transmission effect which together shapes the genetic composition of the successive generation. These equations have applications in many aspects of population genetics and even beyond the scope of biology as well. Now, where does “kindness” come into picture? These equations were part of the proof which tried to explain the emergence of altruism, kindness, and cooperation in human and animal societies. Kindness is not something that demands hard work. It originates from the simple act of doing no harm to others. It’s no surprise wicked acts have a greater impression on us than acts of kindness. We are alerted to fear more than goodness. In these times of disingenuous social media interactions and problems around the globe, unkindness abounds as people hide behind screens. This does not make it appropriate to abuse others. There is a person on the other side of the screen with feelings we must take into account.
For years, I’ve been grappling with the question of how professionals in an increasingly noisy and frenetic world can ensure their expertise is recognized. In the course of researching for my book (yes, I'm writing a book), I have looked up to more than 50 top thought leaders across a variety of different fields to elicit best practices and commonalities. I found plenty of useful techniques, from cultivating a trusted wingman to help promote you to others, to identify commonalities with the people you’re seeking to influence so they’ll be more receptive to your message. As I came to realize, though, there are three foundational elements to getting your ideas understood and appreciated, elements that underlie everything else. These are social proof, which gives people a reason to listen to you; content creation, which allows them to evaluate the quality of your ideas; and your network, which allows your ideas to spread. Without at least two of these, though ideally, you have all three, it’s structurally almost impossible for your message to breakthrough. Understanding that dynamic can help talented professionals, who may be prone to focusing their energy on the techniques that come most easily to them, know where to apply their efforts in order to ensure their true value is recognized.