It's taken me 4 days to write this blog post. Mainly because I've been getting requests from people to "teach them how to write." Let me clear one thing - you already know how to write. You just don't believe it yet. Initially, I was going to draft some advice on copy-writing, but I thought I'll make a series of blog posts wherein I teach you how to take your writing out in public and help you to draft a great copy. Time and again people approach me with the same sentence - "I can't write." It's the resignation declaration of the self-defeated. It's wrong on so many levels. You won't write? You don't want to write? I'm willing to buy these statements. But "can't?" Sorry friend, you can. You've been writing your whole life. You write now. You write emails, greeting cards, shopping lists, meeting notes, etc. In your school years, you wrote every day. When you graduated you wrote a resume. But now, a blank screen transforms you into an anxious, insecure mess. You’ve said it a zillion times, but you’re not going to say it again because it’s a giant, steamy, stinky pile of crap.
It’s the perfect time of year to redefine “failure.” With all that is going on around us with global issues, losing jobs + family stress + a thousand things to manage + worrying about uncertain future effects + mental health + professional and personal growth; being in a constant state of anxiety and stress is the last thing we need right now. Everyone, you and me, is experiencing some sort of 'failure' in each ones' capacity and/or standards. We need to remember that we are trying our best and most importantly - we're in this together! You're not alone. The certain norms of failure need to be addressed and redefined with one thing in mind - it does get better. Have patience and practice gratitude. Embrace failure and count it as a stepping stone to a bright tomorrow because no phase is permanent. This too shall pass. But honestly, though, I'm over it. I'm tired of listening to everybody say they've failed or they can't see a better tomorrow so they'll just wait around for some fairy godmother to make things right. Why can't you do something right now to better your tomorrow? Obviously you aren't going to go research a vaccine to fight for this virus that's killing the world around, unless you're a scientist or medical professional, so leave that to the pros. What you can do is - to work on yourself and improve yourself so that when this is over, you'll have a better chance of making everything okay. Don't you see it? People were so used to the mundane, routine, monotonous, and machine-like regular scheduled life that they completely forgot how it would be otherwise. History is proof that we need to prepare for the worst and in such situations, know that there is only so much that we can do - focus, improve and grow ourselves individually so that when the negative is over, we all rise together. Every drop of water makes the ocean. And that is why we need to redefine our meaning of failure.
With the rise of online courses available, it's difficult and often times tempting to spend $$$ on your next purchase. Buying online has become so easy especially when it's just a click away. The idea for this blog-post came to me when I realized that due to quarantine, people around the world are stuck at home. And the notifications are just pouring in from online course generators in the name of 'personal growth.' Now, I'm not saying all of them are wrong, but it's better to not be bombarded with such messages; I've unsubscribed from many email lists for the same reason. With the number of online courses available, it’s hard to know which ones are worth buying. Perhaps the best financial move I've ever made in my life is to get that sense of impulse under control. That's not to say that occasional spontaneity is bad - it's not and it can be quite fun - but that routine impulsiveness with one's money leads directly to financial ruin. So, how did I get this sense of impulsiveness when it comes to money under control? For me, the most useful strategy was to mentally adopt a routine where I strongly question every single purchase that I make. If I'm considering spending money on something that isn't very clearly a need (like very basic food staples) or an already-considered routine buy (like the type of hand soap that I buy whenever we need a refill), I question it. Now the above method isn't unhealthy, but it won't apply to everyone. There needs to be a strategic way which can help you whilst making decisions. That's why, I'm here 😉 <3
A little side note - I know I'm a little late for World Book Day, and I just realized a few hours ago that I've never written anything about books, writing, or publishing even though I preach about it across my entire blog!!! Whooosh...I know it's crazy. So today, here I am creating an entire category dedicated to the same. You'll hear a lot more from me on this - tips, the who's, why's and how's, book recommendations and reviews, and all the important details. And hey! Happy World Book Day! Six months ago, I found myself drowning in a flood of easy information. The internet—and all the lovely things on it, things like Wikipedia, Twitter, podcasts, the New Yorker, email, TED Talks, Facebook, Youtube, Buzzfeed occasionally, and yes, even the World News—provide unlimited sources of delight at the touch of a finger. The delight, indeed, abounds. But it’s not always delightful. It comes with some suffering too. I was distracted when at work, distracted when with family and friends, constantly tired, irritable, and always swimming against a wash of ambient stress induced by my constant itch for digital information. My stress had an electronic feel to it, as if it was made up of the very bits and bytes on my screens. And I was exhausted.
Have you ever had a mentor? Did you consider tallying the current relationship you have with your mentor? Do the qualities that you look for in an ideal/best mentor, match your current one? If not, how do you know what are some qualities that make the best mentor? This writing is solely based on personal experience. The other day my friend and I were having a conversation regarding mentorship and how I practically 'broke-off' with my former mentor. My friend pointed out that being the Monica (F.R.I.E.N.D.S fans will understand) that I am, I found it a little difficult to connect with the vibe of the respective person and he even said that knowing when to quit not just a situation, but a person is also important. He said, Aishwarya, there are certain specific qualities that make a good mentor and even the best mentoring relationships can run their course or become ineffective. That conversation just opened my eyes and sparked the idea of this blog post. I was a little scared of writing on personal experience, but it gave me the much-needed push to bring this out into the world. That verbal communication will now be the backbone of this incredible piece of advice!