How many times have you tried to break a bad habit? Several? Every January 1st? Every darn day? I'm with you. I’ve tried many different ways to break my bad habits. But none of the conventional tips and tricks brought me lasting success. We try the weirdest things to get rid of our bad habits. And we blindly believe every single person who gives us advice on the topic. Questions to ask yourself: When did I start this habit? Was there a significant life event that may have contributed to starting? What emotion(s) am I feeling when I engage in this behavior? What do I feel before, during, and after the behavior? When do I engage in the behavior? Are there any common triggers for this behavior? Are there times when I engage in this behavior more? At what times do I engage in this behavior less? Bad habits jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. So, how can you delete your bad behaviors and stick to good ones instead? I certainly don't have all of the answers, but keep reading and I'll share what I've learned about how to break a bad habit.
First, let me explain the question - how can science and math prove kindness exists? Answer: the equations of kindness mean the price equation given by George Price. The price equation is about how any trait changes with successive generations in a population that is under selection pressure. It factors in both the reproductive effect and the transmission effect which together shapes the genetic composition of the successive generation. These equations have applications in many aspects of population genetics and even beyond the scope of biology as well. Now, where does “kindness” come into picture? These equations were part of the proof which tried to explain the emergence of altruism, kindness, and cooperation in human and animal societies. Kindness is not something that demands hard work. It originates from the simple act of doing no harm to others. It’s no surprise wicked acts have a greater impression on us than acts of kindness. We are alerted to fear more than goodness. In these times of disingenuous social media interactions and problems around the globe, unkindness abounds as people hide behind screens. This does not make it appropriate to abuse others. There is a person on the other side of the screen with feelings we must take into account.
It's taken me 4 days to write this blog post. Mainly because I've been getting requests from people to "teach them how to write." Let me clear one thing - you already know how to write. You just don't believe it yet. Initially, I was going to draft some advice on copy-writing, but I thought I'll make a series of blog posts wherein I teach you how to take your writing out in public and help you to draft a great copy. Time and again people approach me with the same sentence - "I can't write." It's the resignation declaration of the self-defeated. It's wrong on so many levels. You won't write? You don't want to write? I'm willing to buy these statements. But "can't?" Sorry friend, you can. You've been writing your whole life. You write now. You write emails, greeting cards, shopping lists, meeting notes, etc. In your school years, you wrote every day. When you graduated you wrote a resume. But now, a blank screen transforms you into an anxious, insecure mess. You’ve said it a zillion times, but you’re not going to say it again because it’s a giant, steamy, stinky pile of crap.
It’s the perfect time of year to redefine “failure.” With all that is going on around us with global issues, losing jobs + family stress + a thousand things to manage + worrying about uncertain future effects + mental health + professional and personal growth; being in a constant state of anxiety and stress is the last thing we need right now. Everyone, you and me, is experiencing some sort of 'failure' in each ones' capacity and/or standards. We need to remember that we are trying our best and most importantly - we're in this together! You're not alone. The certain norms of failure need to be addressed and redefined with one thing in mind - it does get better. Have patience and practice gratitude. Embrace failure and count it as a stepping stone to a bright tomorrow because no phase is permanent. This too shall pass. But honestly, though, I'm over it. I'm tired of listening to everybody say they've failed or they can't see a better tomorrow so they'll just wait around for some fairy godmother to make things right. Why can't you do something right now to better your tomorrow? Obviously you aren't going to go research a vaccine to fight for this virus that's killing the world around, unless you're a scientist or medical professional, so leave that to the pros. What you can do is - to work on yourself and improve yourself so that when this is over, you'll have a better chance of making everything okay. Don't you see it? People were so used to the mundane, routine, monotonous, and machine-like regular scheduled life that they completely forgot how it would be otherwise. History is proof that we need to prepare for the worst and in such situations, know that there is only so much that we can do - focus, improve and grow ourselves individually so that when the negative is over, we all rise together. Every drop of water makes the ocean. And that is why we need to redefine our meaning of failure.
With the rise of online courses available, it's difficult and often times tempting to spend $$$ on your next purchase. Buying online has become so easy especially when it's just a click away. The idea for this blog-post came to me when I realized that due to quarantine, people around the world are stuck at home. And the notifications are just pouring in from online course generators in the name of 'personal growth.' Now, I'm not saying all of them are wrong, but it's better to not be bombarded with such messages; I've unsubscribed from many email lists for the same reason. With the number of online courses available, it’s hard to know which ones are worth buying. Perhaps the best financial move I've ever made in my life is to get that sense of impulse under control. That's not to say that occasional spontaneity is bad - it's not and it can be quite fun - but that routine impulsiveness with one's money leads directly to financial ruin. So, how did I get this sense of impulsiveness when it comes to money under control? For me, the most useful strategy was to mentally adopt a routine where I strongly question every single purchase that I make. If I'm considering spending money on something that isn't very clearly a need (like very basic food staples) or an already-considered routine buy (like the type of hand soap that I buy whenever we need a refill), I question it. Now the above method isn't unhealthy, but it won't apply to everyone. There needs to be a strategic way which can help you whilst making decisions. That's why, I'm here 😉 <3