Letting go sucks. It’s hard. It’s painful. It’s uncomfortable. And usually, when it’s time to let something or someone go, we realize it’s something we probably should have done a while ago. We like to white knuckle as long as possible whether it be our own bad ideas or our own bad hires. But keeping people and ideas beyond their expiration date can destroy morale and the fabric of your company culture. Think about Borders Books. When Amazon came on the scene, Barnes and Noble fortified their online store. Borders meanwhile said, “Let’s keep doing what we’ve always done” which was to focus on their brick and mortar stores. Bye Bye, Borders. This has happened to countless companies. The same old people make the same old decisions not to let go, move on and evolve.
Have you ever wondered about our educational system and why it's so tedious and outdated? I mean, it keeps teaching about the same syllabus it taught our grandparents and the people before them. School is a valuable experience for sure for about the first 5 or so years. Once you learn how to read, write and do basic math, you’ve learned 80% of what you need to go out and create your life on your terms. It’s cliche at this point to say that the most important things you learn in life you don’t learn in school. I know in my life, the most important things I’ve learned I had to figure out on my own as an adult. It might look like high school and college are separated by only a few, short, glorious summer months, but the reality is very different. The two are worlds apart! There are so many valuable things that you learn almost immediately after going through the college gates that it’s remarkable. Obvious things that you would never have even considered back in school. And still, even the college falls short about teaching valuable life skills and survival tactics which can be applied in the real world.
But what exactly is imposter syndrome? I created this blog post especially to answer that question and break the chains of self-doubt. It takes years as a person to unlearn a quality that we were taught to be felt sorry for. In the process of apologizing for every little mistake, we start doubting our own thoughts and beliefs and start judging all aspects of our universe. Stick with me till the end and hopefully you'll learn a thing or two. There’s been a lot of press about the Imposter Syndrome in the past few years, but what it comes down to is a feeling of intellectual fraudulence. You may have degrees, awards, good performance reviews, promotions, maybe even accolades in a public forum like Angel – but you push it all away. You minimize positive feedback. The story you tell yourself is that you’re a one-hit-wonder, that your success is a fluke that couldn’t happen again. You have no idea how you landed your job or why someone gave you this authority. What you do know is that it’ll certainly all disappear if you screw up even once.
The other day, I was thinking about the type of impact I want to leave on people's minds - knowingly and unknowingly. I imagined a random person having a conversation and saying ‘I remember her as…………..’, or ‘She says that……..’. But what did I want those blanks to say? It’s something I’ve never pondered before. So, I sat down and started to write and what emerged was this list of 30 power statements. I liked it so much that I wanted to share it with you, in the hopes that it inspires you to stop, go inward, search your soul, and create your own. You can use mine as inspiration, and once you have your own list, please share it with me in the comments below. I would love to read it!
How many times have you tried to break a bad habit? Several? Every January 1st? Every darn day? I'm with you. I’ve tried many different ways to break my bad habits. But none of the conventional tips and tricks brought me lasting success. We try the weirdest things to get rid of our bad habits. And we blindly believe every single person who gives us advice on the topic. Questions to ask yourself: When did I start this habit? Was there a significant life event that may have contributed to starting? What emotion(s) am I feeling when I engage in this behavior? What do I feel before, during, and after the behavior? When do I engage in the behavior? Are there any common triggers for this behavior? Are there times when I engage in this behavior more? At what times do I engage in this behavior less? Bad habits jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. So, how can you delete your bad behaviors and stick to good ones instead? I certainly don't have all of the answers, but keep reading and I'll share what I've learned about how to break a bad habit.