How many times have you tried to break a bad habit? Several? Every January 1st? Every darn day? I'm with you. I’ve tried many different ways to break my bad habits. But none of the conventional tips and tricks brought me lasting success. We try the weirdest things to get rid of our bad habits. And we blindly believe every single person who gives us advice on the topic. Questions to ask yourself: When did I start this habit? Was there a significant life event that may have contributed to starting? What emotion(s) am I feeling when I engage in this behavior? What do I feel before, during, and after the behavior? When do I engage in the behavior? Are there any common triggers for this behavior? Are there times when I engage in this behavior more? At what times do I engage in this behavior less? Bad habits jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. So, how can you delete your bad behaviors and stick to good ones instead? I certainly don't have all of the answers, but keep reading and I'll share what I've learned about how to break a bad habit.
Before I write anything, with everything that's going on around us right now, I request you to stay humble, kind, and grateful. Walk on your truthful path and give thanks for every moment that you're here. Don't beat yourself up for not trying too hard. And lastly, we can only bring change when it begins within us. Stay strong. You're worth more than you could ever imagine. Now, Do you maintain celebration lists like your to-do lists? It's basically being thankful and pausing for celebrating yourself for your little achievements. You have big goals and then you have the small ones that lead you there. And it's important to pat yourself on the back for all the little milestones you cross; because if you don't believe in yourself, who else will?
First, let me explain the question - how can science and math prove kindness exists? Answer: the equations of kindness mean the price equation given by George Price. The price equation is about how any trait changes with successive generations in a population that is under selection pressure. It factors in both the reproductive effect and the transmission effect which together shapes the genetic composition of the successive generation. These equations have applications in many aspects of population genetics and even beyond the scope of biology as well. Now, where does “kindness” come into picture? These equations were part of the proof which tried to explain the emergence of altruism, kindness, and cooperation in human and animal societies. Kindness is not something that demands hard work. It originates from the simple act of doing no harm to others. It’s no surprise wicked acts have a greater impression on us than acts of kindness. We are alerted to fear more than goodness. In these times of disingenuous social media interactions and problems around the globe, unkindness abounds as people hide behind screens. This does not make it appropriate to abuse others. There is a person on the other side of the screen with feelings we must take into account.
For years, I’ve been grappling with the question of how professionals in an increasingly noisy and frenetic world can ensure their expertise is recognized. In the course of researching for my book (yes, I'm writing a book), I have looked up to more than 50 top thought leaders across a variety of different fields to elicit best practices and commonalities. I found plenty of useful techniques, from cultivating a trusted wingman to help promote you to others, to identify commonalities with the people you’re seeking to influence so they’ll be more receptive to your message. As I came to realize, though, there are three foundational elements to getting your ideas understood and appreciated, elements that underlie everything else. These are social proof, which gives people a reason to listen to you; content creation, which allows them to evaluate the quality of your ideas; and your network, which allows your ideas to spread. Without at least two of these, though ideally, you have all three, it’s structurally almost impossible for your message to breakthrough. Understanding that dynamic can help talented professionals, who may be prone to focusing their energy on the techniques that come most easily to them, know where to apply their efforts in order to ensure their true value is recognized.
It's taken me 4 days to write this blog post. Mainly because I've been getting requests from people to "teach them how to write." Let me clear one thing - you already know how to write. You just don't believe it yet. Initially, I was going to draft some advice on copy-writing, but I thought I'll make a series of blog posts wherein I teach you how to take your writing out in public and help you to draft a great copy. Time and again people approach me with the same sentence - "I can't write." It's the resignation declaration of the self-defeated. It's wrong on so many levels. You won't write? You don't want to write? I'm willing to buy these statements. But "can't?" Sorry friend, you can. You've been writing your whole life. You write now. You write emails, greeting cards, shopping lists, meeting notes, etc. In your school years, you wrote every day. When you graduated you wrote a resume. But now, a blank screen transforms you into an anxious, insecure mess. You’ve said it a zillion times, but you’re not going to say it again because it’s a giant, steamy, stinky pile of crap.