“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” Surviving through all the good and bad circumstances in life can sure feel overwhelming at times. Here are a few reminders on surviving life that I wish I knew earlier. But then again, we live and we learn, right?
But, lets start with what is self-love? Many of us don’t know the answer to this question. The truth is, many of us never truly developed it, or it is not very strong. This can lead to destructive, harmful, and unhealthy ways we treat ourselves, including how we allow others to mistreat us. It wasn’t until I wrote a self-love affirmation that I started on a journey that helped me recover and, heal my depression, and build a life centered on well-being and happiness. Anyone can write a self-love affirmation. Even if you think your self-love is good, it’s important to make sure to continue to build your self-love and keep it strong. Having strong self-love is the foundation for which the rest of your life and your happiness stands.
You’re looking to consolidate your gains. Only a crazy person would invest time, energy — true sweat equity — into something only to abandon it for no good reason. I’d come so far in getting into a daily regimen of writing, being a full-time business student and on my way to becoming a certified coach, working toward my first startup and moving forward toward publishing my first book. (too many things, right?) Then, family and financial duties called. Not to forget my medical situation too. Next thing I knew, I was in the vicious cycle of life. When you’re there, you realize that like a hamster on a wheel, it’s hard to slow down. We tend to rely exclusively on the left side of our brains, with little regard for the creativity, imagination, and gifts of wonder that illuminate our thoughts and dreams. In other words — we’re focused on process and tasks, not what we love.
There was a time not too long ago when I complained so much my entire family called me out. I had started to believe all the untrue stories my mind had created over the years. I was depressed, so much so, I refused to get out of bed for weeks sometimes and living a life that did not make me happy.
(FYI depression is real. I have experienced it personally and I'm not ashamed to call myself a depression survivor. Don't hesitate to ask for help. Mental health is extremely important.)
I went searching for answers -- and turned it around.
I’m going to do my best and address this topic anyway because I’ve gotten so many requests to broach this subject. Which makes me realize that there are so many people out there walking around, passion-less. Read that sentence over again if you have to. And then you will understand exactly where I’m going with this post.
I have written about growth mindset and how passion maybe, "maybe" a myth. You can read it here - Finding your passion is a myth?
As the New year is upon us, and the fear of setting goals and resolutions and starting new and wonderful seems all right, we all know something happens around the year and we fail to stick to our so-called "passions." While I'm in total support of keeping a diary and a planner for the year, I know for once that we need to learn to forgive ourselves for accepting ourselves completely. There is an immense power in self-acceptance.
I had to write this topic as a quick reminder check for 2019!