It can be difficult finding ways to stay optimistic when life seems to be throwing you curveballs left and right. With the right tools and a positive mindset, you can learn to work for the life you want, be grateful for what you have, and find optimism to carry you through tough times. Think back to a time in your past — five, 10, 15, or even 20 years ago. Maybe you envisioned a happy future making more money, having more fun, a family of your own, or living in a bigger place. Few things turn out perfectly, but chances are your life saw some growth and improvement in at least one area. A 30 or 40-something-year-old adult’s standards are going to be different than those of a teenager. In that sense, most of us have undergone economic, personal, and career upgrades, even if you might be disappointed with the outcome thus far making it hard to stay optimistic.
Plenty of research suggests optimistic people have a reduced risk of heart disease, stroke, and declines in lung capacity and function. Optimism is also associated with a lower risk of early death from cancer and infection. And now a new study links optimism to living a longer life.
When you learn to embrace your fears and accept them with open arms, that's when the magic begins! Life can cajole our strength in the face of challenges; knocking every single shield of hope, courage, and optimism, lifting a blindfold in our direction and truth is the biggest advocacy we need in those thirsty times; truth in the light of encouragement to boost our vibe and as a firm reminder. There are times we just need to hear some encouraging words like, “that it will be okay”, “we are not alone”, “we are in control even when we are sinking in turmoil”. Those assuring words ushers in beats of motivation to guide and direct us through the challenging and hard times.
I used to be afraid of going to the movie theaters alone. Not that I was nervous for my physical safety, but I feared that sitting in the theater as a party of one, I would get awkward side-glances (you know the ones) from fellow moviegoers or somehow enjoy the experience less. So I avoided it. At all costs. Until, for the umpteenth time, I had missed a movie I’d really wanted to see because I couldn’t find someone to go with me. I was tired of missing out on opportunities.
Here's an advise -- BE YOURSELF! Too often, we give too much credit to other people’s opinions. As social animals, we humans have a natural tendency to give other people’s opinions far too much weight. We can become overly concerned by what others believe, think, or say about us and our life choices. It’s so easy to forget that most people place themselves at the center of their mental universes. And are much more likely to be paying attention to their own lives than whatever you are doing! This is a liberating thought because it frees us up from caring so much about what others think. We can start to put our focus back on living an authentic life that reflects our true self. Once you truly appreciate the value of being yourself, you will find that life becomes much simpler and less stressful. You will no longer be trying to please everyone around you and burning up precious energy on those whose opinions really do not count for much anyway.