The good news is anyone can fall in love with the process. Every expert was once an amateur and every master was first a beginner. What separates them from the crowd is their relentless consistency in showing up and doing the work. Drop your need for immediate results, focus on your daily habits and keep adjusting as you go. The results are always within reach, just slightly beyond where most people are willing to go.
That’s life. You could have a long innings, or a short one — one never knows. As such one can only hope for the best and be prepared for the worst. We all seek the comfort of permanence, but the only reliable truth is that of impermanence. Nobody ever managed to beat that! We surround ourselves with the illusions of permanence – a solid house we call home, people we love who love us back, friends, annual events, plans for the future, books to be read, movies to be watched, and so on. And yet, all slips away from us. Insecure, once again we struggle to look for things that give us a sense of permanence – the company of young people; shopping for clothes we plan to wear on happy occasions, food to fill our fridge with, and books to line our racks with. We resist facing this one unpalatable, yet unchangeable truth — that impermanence is the only permanence.
What is the difference between living and existing? I like to ask this question often in my life coaching group practice sessions (you know the one I'm getting certified for) because many of us go through our days on autopilot - without fully living. And the simple act of thinking about the answer to this question puts you in a state of mindfulness and awareness. We often get so caught up in simply existing - in thinking about how busy we are, emails and messages we have to return, distractions from social media, and the dreams we’re putting off because of fear or uncertainty. That it can be easy to forget to experience life in its purest form and without judgment.
We all have compared ourselves to some other person/people at least once in our lives. We all are guilty of forgetting our beautiful soul for that particular moment when realization strikes and you're back to your own reality. Well...STOP. Just stop comparing yourself to some one else because you are a miracle and you're unique in your own way. Job title, income, grades, house, and the social media comments and likes—the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite. So is the number of people we can compare ourselves to. A comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness. It’s a recipe for misery. All it does is keeping you focused on what you don’t like about yourself and your life. Here are ten powerful reminders when you start comparing yourself to others: