How Can I “Live a Life I Love” While So Many Suffer?


Dear Aishwarya,

I realize I have a belief: “In order to cultivate compassion and to help people, I have to suffer their suffering.”

Basically, I believe that by suffering I can be on the same frequency as other human beings and therefore be able to communicate to them. If I were fully healthy, wealthy and joyful then I would not be able to communicate to human beings who are suffering and they would despise me.

How is it possible to live in happiness, abundance, and joy and at the same time have an open heart to those who are suffering?

Signed,
Completely Compassionate


Dearest Compassionate,

I understand your feelings. I have felt that way too and I am pretty sure others have as well. And resolve it you should, because this belief system will not only keep you from success, joy, and abundance, it will keep you virtually powerless to (truly) help anyone at all.

Yep. That’s right. Your choice to make yourself smaller in order to help others will backfire. Why? Because…

Suffering + Suffering = More Suffering

It was Albert Einstein who said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” And he was right. Commiserating with others, suffering from others or complaining about others, will not change the consciousness of the sufferer—and it will not help them.

You see, each of us vibrates at a certain level. As we grow, become more, change our beliefs, and begin to understand who we really are, our vibration rises.

And two people cannot be in the same place for very long at different vibrational rates without one of four things happening:

  1. The person with the higher vibration will lower theirs, or…
  2. The person with the lower vibration will raise theirs, or…
  3. A combination of 1 and 2, or…
  4. The two people will part ways, as each refuses to shift.

Lazaris* tells a story that illustrates the concept (paraphrased):

Imagine you were walking through the woods and you hear someone yelling for help. You follow the voice and come upon a man in a deep hole in the ground with no way to get out.

Now—assuming you want to help this man, how do you go about doing that? You could jump in the hole with him. He would have company and you both could suffer together. They say misery loves company, right?

But would that help him? Obviously not. The only way to truly support him is to help him get out of the hole.

Helping Others Begins with Helping Yourself

The only way you can truly help others is to first empower yourself. If you transcend from your own suffering to a life of joy, love, and prosperity then you are showing others it can be done. You are giving them an energetic and physical example of someone who has realized everyone is powerful and has the ability to create a spectacular life.

And let’s face it; the downtrodden don’t need more people who don’t believe in them—everyone around them (including themselves) holds that belief.

But do they need compassion? Yes—definitely. And here is where your former suffering can produce a silver lining. Because you understand what it’s like to suffer, you really can empathize with people. You really can be deeply compassionate about their plight.

But you can also hold a vision of them being healed, happy, whole and in love with their life. And whether you share that vision with them or not, it will help them.

Do those who suffer need support? Maybe—for a while. You see our world does have true victims in it (those who don’t have a clue about their ability to change their world). And victims do need help.

Not everyone is ready for the fact that “we create our own reality”. Sometimes people need to be protected, fed, educated, housed and clothed before they can even begin to become empowered. But that is not a reason for you to suffer until they do. That, my friend, is martyrdom.

Ultimately no one wants to feel powerless—and approaching those in need as if they will never “have what it takes” to make something of themselves does them a great disservice.

And believing that you cannot be happy, successful and prosperous until every person on the planet is free from suffering does yourself (as well as them) an equally great disservice.

Remember you cannot control the way things turn out and you certainly cannot control others. Love others enough to allow them to make their own choices.

And meanwhile…

Change the Beliefs that Trip You Up

These ideas won’t just go away because I said they are untrue, even if the less constricting belief makes all the sense in the world and you really want to believe something different.

If you hold negative beliefs about creating a life you love, you’ll want to change them in order to be free to actually create that magnificent life. Here are what they might be:

Those who are suffering cannot create a life they love.
Those who are suffering can create a life they love.

It is most helpful to those in need to suffer with them as a gesture of support.
It is most helpful to those in need to show them a way out of their situation.

The greatest gift I can give to those who suffer is to suffer with them.
The greatest gift I can give to those who suffer is to imagine them happy.

I must be at the same frequency as those suffering in order to communicate with them.
I must feel great compassion for those suffering in order to communicate with them.

When I am successful, others who aren’t will despise me for having what they don’t.
When I am successful, others who aren’t will be inspired to create as I did.

Luckily every belief can be changed. And once you do, you’ll feel the freedom to create all the success in the world, while still feeling compassion and love for your fellow human being.

And once you’ve created that success, your resonance will help the next person who is ready to create theirs, and they will help the next, and on and on and on…until everyone on the planet is happy, healthy and in love with their life.

Hey, if we can create it all (and we can) why not, right?


* More information about Lazaris can be found at www.lazaris.com.


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16 thoughts on “How Can I “Live a Life I Love” While So Many Suffer?

  1. 🙂 Wise thoughts. To add a church-lady perspective: Even if the one in the hole refuses help, you can pray that he will see the ladder that is already there and begin to climb. Blessings, Aishwarya.

  2. Trust me, I can empathize truly. However, to be a Wayshower such as yourself cannot show the Way by being in darkness. Embodying the Light affords you the opportunity to Light the way for those suffering in the dark. No need to feel guilty if you feel you are living an overly abundant life. The Brighter you are the more you will Shine the Way. 😀
    Peace
    Ben

  3. Wow thank you so much for this. I was struggling with this and couldn’t figure out exactly why but your words gave me clarity. For me it not only relates to my need for helping those less fortunate than myself but also relates to codependency in toxic relationships. The analogy of the person in the hole perfectly describes my past patterns of martyrdom in my relationship with my mom and an ex partner.

    Thanks again. Blessings!

  4. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life and no-one comes to the Father except through Me” (John 14:6). If you desire eternal life in paradise after death then receiving Jesus and becoming spiritually “born again” is the only way.

    We do not have our best life now. This is very much a material existence. Heaven is where it is at – we only go there after death if we follow JESUS 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

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