“When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realize that these resources were always there within us. We only need to find them and move on with our lives.” – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. (A Phoenix comes to mind. The mythical ever powerful creature.)
One way to understand the development of resilience is to visualize a balance scale or seesaw. Protective experiences and coping skills on one side counterbalance significant adversity on the other.
Resilience is not something you’re born with. It develops over time by learning, adapting and observing our surroundings. It involves a deep sense of self-understanding and acceptance of flaws.
“We never know how strong we are untill being strong is the only choice we have….”
It’s human nature to resist change. Resilience is knowing that change is inevitable and developing the trait of resilience helps us not only survive change, but also learn, grow, and thrive in it.
Four basic ingredients to resilience:
- Awareness – noticing what is going on around you and inside your head;
- Thinking – being able to interpret the events that are going on in a rational way;
- Reaching out – how we call upon others to help us meet the challenges that we face, because resilience is also about knowing when to ask for help; and
- Fitness – our mental and physical ability to cope with the challenges without becoming ill.
It sounds all fun and games to ears, but the real challenge is when we have to fight our battles and face the twists and turns down the road – all alone.
Yes. You are alone and you’re your only savior.
Write it down somewhere or memorize it till your mind speaks it back to you. Nobody can save you but yourself.
All those motivational blogs, videos, books and people we admire sure help us keep on track. The real truth is – they won’t help you achieve anything until and unless you take the first step. You have to work, strive for the changes you want in life.
“Someone said adversity builds character, but someone else said adversity reveals character. I’m pleasantly surprised with my resilience. I persevere, and not just blindly. I take the best, get rid of the rest, and move on, realizing that you can make a choice to take the good.” – Brooke Shields
I once pulled in straight 3 nights without sleep to complete an assignment. I never knew a lousy sound sleeper like me would even dare to do something like this before. If someone would’ve told me this even 2 years ago, I would’ve called them crazy and had a laugh. The reason I was able to pull myself into doing that task was because I was under pressure and working on a deadline.
I’m telling you this story just to bring out the fact that we normally tend to work and give in our 100% when trying to prove something – to us, colleagues or society or what you want to call it.
Resilience already resides within us. The need is to discover its power and put it to good use.
Realization. Better late than never.
You have it in you. Yes, you do.
Learn to be patient with yourself. Good things take time.
I wish you a productive week ahead! Slay your goals like a boss.
Thank you for reading. Love you for that!
—–Have Hope.Keep Faith—–
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