“To err is human, to forgive is divine.”
We all know this popular adage, but what does it really mean? Well, as humans, we all make mistakes – whether or not we want to admit to them is another thing entirely! However, when it comes to forgiveness, many of us would rather hold on to our hurts, our resentments, and our anger than forgive the one who has done us wrong. It usually takes a “bigger” person to forgive, someone who realizes that holding on to all those negative emotions only hurts them in the long run – instead of the person who committed the wrongdoing!
Usually, we tend to think of forgiveness as benefiting only the one who is guilty of the wrongdoing. Viewed in this way, forgiveness is a “divine” act on the part of the one who forgives; the one who is forgiven is relieved of any guilt and can go on with their lives, free from remorse. But what about the forgiver? Does he/she benefit at all?
A life that is consumed by bitterness and resentment is hardly a life worth living. When anger and resentment consume you, this only leads to depression and a life of misery, where you feel victimized and powerless.
Forgiveness frees you – it frees you to live without the weight of that anger and resentment. Forgiveness of others, and ourselves, for the wrongdoings we have caused ourselves or suffered because of another’s actions, has tremendous physical and psychological effects. Forgiveness of ourselves and others leads to increased feelings of self-worth and decreased psychological stress. This allows you to live a more satisfied and fulfilling life because you have moved beyond the negative feelings that keep you stuck in the muck and the mire and control your thinking and behavior.
Forgiveness is really a gift that you give to yourself. It has very little to do with the person who has hurt you. In fact, holding on to that hurt is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! Doesn’t make any sense, does it? Letting go of the hurt helps to build your self-esteem because it demonstrates your willingness to move out of the “victim” role and take your own personal power back.
Remember – forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to accept the behavior of another nor does it mean you have to forget. It means granting yourself the permission to be happy and to move on – because that is what is best for you!
Some of my favourite collection of forgiveness quotes:
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.—Martin Luther King, Jr.
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.
Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.
Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.
It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.
Many times, the decisions we make affect and hurt your closest friends and family the most. I have a lot of regrets in that regard. But God has forgiven me, which I am very thankful for. It has enabled me to forgive myself and move forward one day at a time.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. —Lewis B. Smedes
There would be no need for love if perfection were possible. Love arises from our imperfection, from our being different and always in need of the forgiveness, encouragement and that missing half of ourselves that we are searching for, as the Greek myth tells us, in order to complete ourselves.
Forgive, O Lord, my little jokes on Thee, and I’ll forgive Thy great big joke on me.
I did once seriously think of embracing the Christian faith. The gentle figure of Christ, so full of forgiveness that he taught his followers not to retaliate when abused or struck, but to turn the other cheek – I thought it was a beautiful example of the perfect man.
Anger begets more anger, and forgiveness and love lead to more forgiveness and love.
I read everything, but generally more fact than fiction – especially autobiographies and biographies. I’ve read ‘Long Walk to Freedom’ by Nelson Mandela at least twice on holiday. Every time, I’m totally awed by his vision, strength and forgiveness. I feel honoured to have got to know him and his wonderful wife Graca over the years.
I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart. —Sue Monk Kidd
Thank you for reading. This particular topic is never-ending. I’ll be returning with some more.
—–Have Hope.Keep Faith—–
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